Stop Comparing, Start Enjoying – Part 1

Opportunity for comparison is everywhere.

Almost everywhere you look is an opportunity to compare your spouse with someone else. Someone else’s body. Someone’s relational warmth. Someone else’s smile, figure, income, humour, house, kindness… I could go on.

We live in the day of social media blasting everyone’s highlight reel into our faces and minds every day. We are surrounded by gorgeous bodies, ‘successful relationships’ and perfect lives. The constant display of perfection causes us to ask questions of ourselves such as, “Am I enjoying my life enough?” and “Is my spouse really giving me their best?”

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Have a Weekly Business Meeting

Why a 20-minute meeting can be a game-changer for your marriage Susan and Paul live in a continual state of mild overwhelm.  They have 3 young kids including one at school. Life before, during and after COVID has maintained their normal level of busy and tired. 2 of the kids play sport, one is already

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Connect First

WHY CONNECTING IS YOUR GREATEST STARTING POINT FOR BUILDING INTIMACY You come home from work and it’s your spouse’s day to cook dinner. It’s later than usual and dinner hasn’t been started. The TV is on in the lounge room and you can see the warm glow and some shoes as you walk through the

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Stop Keeping Score

HOW CONSTANTLY COMPARING YOUR LOVE IS PULLING YOU APART. AND HOW TO FIX IT. Keeping score sets you up to fail. Why? Because ultimately you’re looking for a reason to withhold. You’re looking for a measurement. A comparison. You’re weighing up whether your spouse has loved enough in order for you to love. And eventually,

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The Clarity Series #1 – This is Us

Discover your family values so you can live well, be unified and pass them on to your kids. I love the statement, “This is us.” Its bold, confident and shows the person has done an internal journey of discovering who they are and what they stand for. I don’t see arrogance as much as inner

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How to Navigate Change TOGETHER

Working out what the new world looks like as a team Life right now is changing. Schools are empty, homes are full and movement is restricted. Most workplaces are setting up their employees to work from home too. And, surrounding all of this is a climate of fear and a never-ending cycle of what seems

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How to Have a Talk

How to have a conversation about something that matters A talk that moves us towards agreement is different to other conversations we might have. There’s the end of workday debrief. The making plans conversation. The times when you’re having fun connecting. The I’m-just-letting-you-know-because-this-will-impact-us-in-some-way chat. But let’s talk about a unity building chat. It might get

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The Perfect Stress Reliever

Why you need to schedule sex when life is stressful. Right now the COVID-19 drama has many of us stuck at home and no one knows when it will end. Hopefully, this means you and your spouse are enjoying plenty of great sex.  But maybe it doesn’t. If you’ve got all the kids at home,

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Holding hands is powerful

Holding hands can be a really powerful thing. Sure, it’s a way of loving through physical touch but it can say so much to your spouse. Holding hands says says I’m with you. You’re mine. I belong to you, I’m here. You’re safe. I’m home when I’m with you. We’re together. We’re in love. We

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How to get CLOSER during COVID-19

The world is in an incredible state of upheaval right now and my marriage Insta feed is pretty flooded with stuff about sex right now. Sure, go for it. If you’re quarantined with each other and you can make love multiple times a day, try new positions and take your sex life to whole new

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